It’s 4:44 pm
Sitting here in a empty house. The past two years I have been graciously invited over for Thanksgiving by a co-worker. Thankfully she found a new relationship this year and is rightfully spending the day with that person. I am very happy for her because she does have a great spirit and deserves to have happiness.
Someone wished me a “Happy Thanksgiving” on my Facebook page and I commented “Never happy” and someone else said it was “my choice to be happy or not”.
There were so many ways I could have responded to that….but sometimes you get tired of trying to overcome the ignorance and insensitive nature of people and ignore it. You actually feel sorry and sad for people who have no empathy or compassion because they have experienced so little of it in their own lives.
They comment rashly and blindly because they just don’t understand the depth of what some folks are going through. I know a few people now who affected like me and I am aware of how the holiday season is for them. There is a reason that the suicide rate is so much higher during this time. Many souls are overcome with pain and despair,each day is liking on shards of glass emotionally. When you are aware of someone in this state,sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all. A warm hug or a gentle “Call me if you need me” is what is called for.
I have two co-workers who have lost their spouses and I take pains to avoid talking about the season. I let them talk about it first,if they do and are okay in doing so,then I engage them,otherwise I talk about anything else. This is how I respect what they are feeling.
This year has been mixed,some good things and some not so good. Just as in any year,right? But I do have several things to be thankful for in 2016 and I will reflect on these today.